Tracing Roots Lost to War
I’ve been wanting to blog about this for a while. This will probably be a long one—and it might even turn into a series of posts around a central theme.
My mother—more than me, but me too—has always wondered about her mother’s family.
A Childhood Cut Short My grandmother was born in Poland in 1926, before World War II. She was just 13, almost 14, when Germany invaded. According to my mother, my grandmother was at school in Kraków when the invasion happened. She was taken away from her parents, older brother, and sister. The last time she ever saw them was before going to school that day. I just learned this part while preparing for this post: my grandmother was taken to a concentration camp and was “in line for a shower.” She was seen by a German officer, who pulled her out of the line. She was forced to serve as an au pair—but in truth, she was a slave. My mother told me that, surprisingly, my grandmother was treated well by the German and his family and was almost certainly saved from death by that officer. My grandmother never knew why she was chosen out of everyone in line. We all know what “going into the showers” meant. But I don’t think it was just fate that saved her—I believe it was divine intervention. If not for that moment, how would my mother be here today—and, by extension, my brother, sister, and me?
God has a plan for all of us, and He always makes sure His plans are carried out.
A Family Lost She never reunited with her parents or siblings. That part of her life remains a mystery to this day. Were they killed? Did they survive? Did my great-uncle or great-aunt have children? Do I have cousins in Poland—in Kraków or somewhere else—even today? I just don’t know.
An American Love Story I know she met my maternal grandfather during the war—he was an American soldier—and supposedly fell in love with him. That’s how she came to America. And so, by extension, I know almost nothing about that side of my family. It starts and stops with her. Poland is still high on my bucket list to visit—maybe someday I’ll find out more. But for now, it remains a blank page.
A Marriage Rediscovered My mother told me that my grandparents were married three times: twice in Germany and once in the United States. First, they were married by an Army chaplain. Then they had a church wedding. Finally, they married again in the U.S.—probably in West Virginia.
The Weight of Unanswered Questions This has always weighed on my mother. She’s always wanted to know about her cousins, aunts, and uncles—if any are still out there. She feels unsettled, and maybe even resigned, to never knowing anything about her mother’s side of the family. On my maternal grandfather’s side, she knows a little more—but not much. They always treated her like an outsider. Either they didn’t like my grandfather, or something else was going on.